After years of watching your loved one’s memory fail and their cognitive functioning decline, you may feel a move to a memory care home is necessary but may be unwelcomed. Make sure that, when you initiate this vital transition, you have done your best to ensure a smooth move. Here are a few general tips to help.
Having a Conversation with your Loved One
As you prepare to discuss the transition into a memory care facility with your loved one, keep in mind that they will likely be upset about the decision, no matter how it’s presented. Patiently listen to their concerns. By validating their emotions, you will show them that you still love them and desire what is best for them.
Select a Facility Together, But Plan the Move on Your Own
Research the best dementia care homes that are both available and affordable. Look for a memory care home that offers all-inclusive pricing to make budgeting easier with no hidden costs. Invite your loved one to attend events at each home with you. Most dementia care homes offer enrichment activities and would accommodate the visit of a prospective resident. Although you’ve included your loved one in selecting a new home, don’t share all the logistical details, such as items to bring or the date of the move. Dementia can exacerbate feelings of anxiety, especially in anticipation of a life transition.
Establish Good Rapport with the Home
Proactively engage with the staff at the home of choice. Visit the facility often, including before the move and brief the staff on information about your loved one that will help them provide the utmost care.
The transition into a memory care facility may feel daunting and overwhelming, but keep these three things in mind:
- Feel what your loved one is feeling; be gentle but firm.
- The facility shouldn’t be a surprise, but the moving details can be.
- Maintain good contact with the facility staff before, during and after the move.